I'm fat and I hate when people enable me. People will say "oh you're not fat, you look good, just a little chub, healthy." Im probably going to die of a heart attack or high blood pressure or something in my 30s. Being fat means you over indulge yourself in calories but limit exercise. A lot of times people are simply addicted to sugar and food, and enabling them doesn't help. Would you tell an alcholic or a drug addict that they looked fine? That they didn't have a problem? No, you'd say something because you're concerned for their well being. Yes, people are cruel to over weight people and it doesn't help the situation. But if you're eating yourself to death and someone feels concerned enough to step in I wouldn't call that bullying or harassment or shaming.